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WHERE:  Optimal Performance Gym 

Wichita, Ks


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Please take a moment to see how quick an abduction can happen.  This is actual video of a little girl being carried off an apartment complex but... her little friend, 4 years old, causes such a scene that the man sets her down and leaves the complex.  I believe this little boy SAVED her life by getting loud!!!

ATTEMPTED abduction of 4yr old girl caught on apartment video.


Cell phones + Multi-tasking + Drinking = Good GREAT Targets of CRIME
Running neck and neck in the personal safety/self-defense category are... listening to your Intuition & becoming a really BAD target of crime.  In a Fearless and Female class, Intuition and becoming a bad target of crime are the first two safety strategies that I talk about.  So, what does the title "cell phones, multi-tasking and drinking" really mean?
A few days ago a good friend called to share a funny story.  Like most women she was Multi-tasking, checking out at the grocery store AND conducting a business call.  Now, this woman knows how to talk on her cell phone in public and not be obnoxious.  I swear, I've seen her do it!  But, while she was unloading her groceries, onto the conveyor belt, she noticed that the check out guy was getting a  little frustrated with her and at one point he was even raising his voice.  She finished her call, hung-up, and was now trying to pay when the young man asked she if she intended to pay for ALL of her groceries??  What??  While talking on her cell phone she was so preoccupied and unaware that as she unloaded her cart, and before the last 5 or so items were scanned, she had been picking them up and putting them back INTO her cart!  Humbly, she apologized, retrieved those items from her cart and paid for all. 
We had a good laugh at her expense, but what was the lesson?  Even though we CAN Multi-task, there is a time and a place.  At home when I watch "The Real Housewives of..."  (I can hear you judging me!) I use the commercial breaks as time to check email, start some laundry, load the dishwasher and so on.  Yes, from time to time I do miss a very riveting story line, but I can always catch the same episode a few hours later!  But, when I am out and about in public, I want to portray the look of a really BAD TARGET.  I want Mr. Bad Guy to look at me and think "that one is going to be way too much trouble.  She already saw me, I won't be able to surprise her.  She has her keys in her hand, phone in her purse, walking with purpose and is aware of who and what is going on around her." 
But, before I hurt my arm from patting myself on the back, I want to share another story.
A few years ago, myself and three of my dear friends vacationed in Cabo San Lucas.  Our last day in Mexico, we decided to charter a catamaran to snorkle and see the sites.  It was a great day full of sun, fun and FREE drinks on the boat ride back to the marina.  After docking, we realized walking was not an option (remember the FREE drinks?) and we needed a ride back to our resort.   What a stroke of luck when there were two young men at the marina offering us a ride back to our resort on their water taxi.   "We'll take it" I said, and we all climbed aboard this little boat.   The music was blaring, my friends were dancing and I was starting to come back to reality as the FREE drinks were wearing off.  Now my intuition was yelling at me!   What are you doing? Is this an official tourist taxi?  Are these guys legit?    This was the makings of bad headline news.    
The good news is, we made it back to our resort all in one piece.  What I learned was, even as "safety savvy" as I am, my personal safety decision making skills were impaired by partaking in the FREE drinks and that made us all really GREAT TARGETS of crime in an unfamiliar setting that day.  Never doing that again!
Now it was time to have a laugh at MY expense.  When we arrived safely at our resort and exited the water taxi we noticed the name of the boat... What was I thinking??





Safety Tip 

If you have ever been to a Fearless and Female program you know that I am a big fan of YELLING.  What should we yell, is one of the top 10 questions that I am asked during a Fearless and Female program.  Should we yell "FIRE?"  Should we yell "HELP?"  I don't think what you yell is as important as the actual purpose of yelling, which is attracting attention to your situation. 

Back in the early years of my self-defense training I used to practice yelling "NOOOOO" in my car.  Yes, you read that right, I used to practice YELLING.  It did bring some really puzzled looks from the other drivers stopped next to me at traffic lights, but what the heck. 


But all kidding aside, I think yelling is very underrated.  If I find myself in a dangerous situation with someone that means me harm, you better believe that I will be yelling my head off (before, during and after I kick his butt!)   I want everyone looking my direction.  I want everyone to see what is going down.  Mr. Bad Guy doesn't want anyone to see what he is up to.  He wants to commit his crime and then move on without any witnesses. 


So, what to yell isn't as important as the simple fact that you are YELLING and attracting attention.  Now, that being said, we also can't depend on someone else running to save us because they heard us yelling.  If they do, bonus!  But, you must be prepared to save our own life.  The other great thing about yelling is that it forces you to keep breathing!  Breathing will help you stay calm and focused during a stressful situation.  Start thinking about (and practicing) your own special yell.


Until next month...  Peace, Love and Safety,  Cindy


Women's Night Out! 



self-defense in Tyler, Texas, convention speaker, convention spouse program speaker

This year I participated in the annual Women's Night Out in Tyler, Texas and the celebrity guest was Bob Harper from Biggest Loser!  He was so gracious and cute as a button! 

When Bob was finished speaking it was my turn to take the stage.   The crowd was so pumped-up that I had no problem getting participants to come up on stage to help me show the audience some sassy self-defense techniques.  They really loved showing off their skills when it came to kneeing me in the groin!  These women can really pack a punch.


Mr. Scary Bad-Guy 

Throughout the evening I met hundreds of women, but one thing that I kept hearing women talk about was their knack for spotting a "scary bad-guy".   While it is awesome that women are looking out for "Mr. Scary Bad-Guy" I just want to toss out a few reminders.


Not all "scary bad-guys" look Scary or Bad.  Remember Ted Bundy? And lets not forget Dennis Rader aka BTK, serial killer from Wichita, Ks.  These two guys were quite the opposite.  Ted Bundy was actually handsome, with a short haircut and well-dressed.  Dennis Rader/BTK was a Wichita city employee and he wore a city issued uniform during the day.  He too was clean cut and didn't look at all like the typical "scary bad guy."


Great, just great.  So now what's a girl supposed to do?  Well, we have to go back to basics.  My theme this year is "Keep it simple... Fight Like A Girl."  We need to remember to listen to our intuition and then act upon the warning it gives us. I don't want women and girls to get so wrapped up in fancy moves, fancy gadgets and difficult techniques that we forget some of the simple things that will aid in our safety as well.  Here are a few reminders;


1. The buddy system.  It worked when we were in elementary school and it will work now. You look more vulnerable when you are alone.

2. Be aware of your surroundings.  When you do have to walk alone (let's be real, there are times when you have to walk alone) be uber-aware of who and what is going on around you.  If something creeps you out - get the heck out!  Run away to a more populated area.

3.  Lock your doors.  Car and house.  This puts one more barrier between you and danger. 

4.  If you do find yourself in a dangerous physical situation and the only thing you can think of is to claw, scratch, scream, holler... DO IT!  Then take a deep breath and pull out all the sassy yet simple techniques you learned at your last Fearless and Female class!


Keep it simple... Fight Like A Girl